Today a woman came to me after realizing that she was caught in a trap of thinking she was selfish for putting herself and her pleasure first. So she asked me how she could re-frame prioritizing her orgasms and sexual pleasure.
Here is my answer:
Many of us feel this very same stigma around fulfilling our sexual needs. When I get trapped in tying my needs to a “selfish” mindset, I remember how good it feels to GIVE. This is important: feel into how good it feels to give pleasure. Then connect that feeling with what you are allowing your partner to feel when they please you. This will help you to see and program yourself around this truth: receiving is a form of giving.
When it comes to prioritizing self-pleasure and disassociating selfishness with it, I invite you to see your orgasms as nourishment. Just like you want to fill your body up with colorful, vibrant and healthful foods, your body also wants to be nourished through sexual pleasure and orgasms. Looking after yourself in this way is truly the best way to set yourself up for giving the best version of you to the world.
So the truth is, it’s actually selfish not to prioritize your pleasure!
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