While thinking about how even better sex is just a few birthday candles away, we came across an article in Vogue where writer Karley Sciortino was pondering the same topic. And while the whole piece is worth a read (spoiler alert: she mentions a hot-sounding threesome in a very public place – brave and hot!), we nabbed our favorite quotes from Sciortino and her friends to share with you:
Now that I’m older, I don’t consider sex good only if my partner thinks I’m really good at it. Good sex means that I also had a good time, I’m relaxed, and I’ve been satisfied.
– Mayan Zillberman, founder of The Lake & Stars
It’s a miracle that women can have orgasms at all if you consider all these things going through our heads.
– Shula Melamed, relationship coach
During my recent four months of singledom, I was really shocked at my ability to come with guys I’d just met—this is seriously a new thing for me! Part of it had to do with increased confidence and entitlement—sort of like learning to “Lean In,” but the sex version—but it was also partly that I just didn’t give a fuck. I was remarkably undistracted by concerns about how I looked or if I was making weird faces or sounds. I was just relaxed.
– Karley Sciortino
You’re more confident in who you are and what feels good, and less concerned with who you ‘should’ be dating or the type of sex you ‘should’ be having. Once you’re freed of those anxieties, you’re able to experience sex on a much deeper and more satisfying level.
– Shula Melamed
Pleasure all comes down to being relaxed and feeling equal with whoever you’re having sex with, man or woman. I think that level of serenity in life is what allows for better sex.
– Mayan Zillberman
Good sex is all in your head.
– Karley Sciortino
So how about you? Is sex getting better with age? Clue us in, we’d love to hear in the comments below!