There’s a lot to worry about as we age: losing flexibility (when was the last time we tried to touch our toes?), losing eye-sight, and becoming the one thing we said we never wanted to be: our parents (sigh, it’s inevitable).
But there’s also a lot to look forward to: knowing ourselves (and wearing what we want!), making life decisions without needing approval from others (like O’a Founder Kit moving to Denver and buying her first home via a FaceTime walk through!), and best of all: the best sex of our lives (YESSSS!).
Seriously, Even Better Sex is Around the Corner.
The University of Manchester queried 7000 older folks about their sex lives and got some uplifting responses. According to the Daily Telegraph, “Some 80 per cent of sexually active men over 50 are apparently satisfied with their sex lives up until their ninth decade, according to a study published early this year by researchers at the University of Manchester.
As women get older, the picture is even rosier. The same study found that 85 per cent of sexually active women aged 50 to 69 are satisfied with their sex lives. Among the oldest group (79 plus), it goes UP to a startling 90 percent.
American’s clearly feel the same way – at least, so says senior sexpert and author Joan Price in an interview with the Huffington Post. “As the years went on, it got better and better and better, and the best sex I ever had was with the man I met when I was 57 and he was 64,” Price told them. Our response: Hallelujah!
Even some of the great women in our O’actually community have expressed similar sentiments:
@jupitersslut Shared with us on twitter: “Sex has improved with age because I’ve grown to accept and revel in my kink!”
Likewise, thesexualalchemist on Instagram answered, “Definitely improved!” to the question, “With age, has sex…Improved, Plateaued or Suffered?” She went on to explain, “I’ve worked on my ‘stuff’ and continue to do so daily. I practice bringing awareness and consciousness to intimate situations every day. I am willing to be open and vulnerable with myself and my partner.”
Why Does Being 50+ Lead to Great Sex?
There are a lot of reasons why aging correlates to better sex. The Stir cites that a study that found CONFIDENCE to be the answer to why.
Elite Daily suggests it’s because we know ourselves better.
But we love what Bobby Sington, a 63-year-old academic, had to say on the subject:
Despite his awareness that his libido isn’t what it was, he thinks he’s happier now than he was in his youth. “I’ve learnt that good sex isn’t all about gratification,” he says. “It’s about being in tune with the other person. And because I’m less obsessed with getting it, I can go more slowly and really enjoy the sensuality of it.”
Bobby, we are right there with you.
Frankly, this is all a bit of a relief to hear. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the pervasive thoughts that older people don’t – or even shouldn’t – have sex. Glad to know there’s a lot of orgasms and intimacy likely in our future.
O’a community, we want to hear more from you! What do you think: Has sex improved with age? Why?