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Tantric massage, though wonderful in any kind of partnership or on your own!, can be a particular game changer for longterm relationships. In this video, the wonderful and wise Rachel Sizemore, shares her journey with erotic massage and how it helped alleviate romantic stagnation in her marriage.
KINK/BDSM was once in a confusing realm for me. I had a lot of false assumptions and patriarchal judgements to let go of and so very much to learn. Thank you to the many humans – dominatrixes, performers, survivors, and adventurers, who over the years have vulnerably and courageously shared your journeys, insights, and wisdom with […]
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“If you leave here remembering one thing,” I am known to say when speaking, “please understand the imperfect overlap between our fantasies and our actual real life desires.” So many of us walk around with fantasy anxiety. We worry that our own fantasies make us weird or even unloveable. We worry that the fantasies of our partners […]
This week Self Magazine featured O’actually in a great article called: This is Why You Should Pay for Porn. I don’t tend to love sentences that use the word should, but this I can absolutely get behind. If only I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard, “Who pays for porn these days? Kit, […]
I can usually talk about the importance of "women's sexual pleasure" and get nods and high-fives all day long. But as soon as I encourage folks to prioritize their orgasms, BAM - major resistance. People become all to quick to say, "You know... it's not *all about* orgasm!" Never mind that I would never say sex or sexuality is *all about* any one thing....