(And We Love Her For It)
When we heard Rashida Jones say, “Women should feel pleasure and have sex and feel good about it,” we didn’t just want to stand up and cheer – we actually threw our hands in the air and let out a celebratory squeal. Rashida Jones, actress, comedic genius, comic book writer and rock-star of critical thinking, was singing our song.
Her female-pleasure believing ways were highlighted recently during interviews for Hot Girls Wanted, a documentary she produced about the amateur porn industry, where Rashida continued her involvement in the female-sexuality conversation.
“What I have a problem with is that the tipping point — it became that it was so pro-forma for women to be sexualized on a mainstream level that it’s the only way to be sexy. It’s just this one way and it’s the porn way, it’s the stripper way.”
Oh man. Yes. For so long, adult entertainment has been about what men want rather than genuine female pleasure. Even traditional entertainment tends to default to stereotypes of women as sex objects, with women bending over backwards (or bending over forwards – just twerking it out) to sell their image as sex symbols. Rashida has a different way of describing this performative way of being sexy: “I find [it] oddly boring.”
Oh woman! Yes indeed. How we express ourselves sexually isn’t limited to what we think someone else wants from us. We’d rather be part of a diverse sexual landscape, where the most important part of sex is genuine pleasure, regardless of what it looks like.
Forget standing up and cheering. We’re going to go hold an O’actually dance party for this news.