Happy June to you! I hope your summer season is already off to a wonderful start.
I myself am just wrapping up my birthday week – it was a whirlwind of joy and love! Time at the spa; a celebratory evening on the deck; so many flowers, candles, and messages of love!*
(*My friends know me so well. Also, Voice Texts are possibly my new favorite thing in life… And ones birthday is truly Facebook at its best.)
As if all that weren’t enough, I then headed to my beloved London for four days of Hampstead Heath wedding celebrations, deep dive catch-ups with dearest friends, and belly-laughs in old haunts.
Traveling home to Denver late last night, I kept thinking, So what now?! And I kept hearing, How good are you willing to let it get?
Whilst part of me scolded, “How could you possibly dare to ask this when you clearly have it so good?” Another – even louder voice – shouted, “Let it get even better – EVEN BETTER! – I say!”
Here’s how I am going to let my life get even better than it already is: (It’s not what you think, I promise.)
I’m going to be more honest, more vulnerable, and more open than I’ve ever been before. Ever. I am publishing my personal journey through healing sexual trauma for the very first time.
In launching the Pleasure with O’actually Podcast, I sought to focus on, illuminate, and educate on all things pleasure. Every single woman I interviewed is a pleasure expert. And yet, almost every one of these pleasure championing women had a journey through violence.
I remain in awe of their ability to embrace their story with love. I was inspired by their courageous decision to heal. Their bravery allowed me to realize on a deep and fundamental level that we can all heal. Healing isn’t only for a select few, it’s for all of us. Including me.
It was clear to me that it was my time to heal. It had been 15 years of confusion, shame, and frustration.
So at the end of last year, I trusted my inner knowing. I embraced the paradox that if I didn’t genuinely face my sexual trauma, I wouldn’t be able to authentically continue to champion sexual pleasure.
This is the full story.
I have so many people to thank for guiding me onto the healing path and then encouraging me to find the courage to stay on it. I trust you know that you are one of them. Thank you.
Whether you are my parent, sibling, or a best friend; a soul-sister, past lover, or beloved mentor; or you simply yet powerfully support O’actually and me through reading this now – please accept my deepest gratitude for being part of shifting the paradigm of women’s sexuality. We, together, bring O’actually’s mission of healing the world through a celebration of women’s sexual pleasure into existence.
I share my in-depth story at this time because I am simultaneously filled up on love, support, and encouragement AND I am willing to let my life get better, deeper, and truer by sharing my full self.
With love and fierce compassion for you and me,