With Serena Williams stealing our hearts and continuing an impressive winning streak for American women athletes (huge shout out to the US Women’s Soccer Team for their World Cup victory!), it was disheartening to notice that the influx of congratulations throughout the media were peppered with commentary about her body.
So, in the interest of taking back what is rightfully ours – our bodies – Team O’a got together and took a deep dive into what we can all learn from Serena Williams about being a strong, fierce, and sexy-as-hell woman (despite a culture that tries to tell you otherwise).
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Like Mary Elizabeth Williams from Salon states, “You can judge a woman like Serena by the size of her arms, but you’ll be missing out, because I promise you that history will remember her by the length of the list of her victories.”
Ladies, it can be easy to play the submissive, helpless girl in the bedroom because that’s what society tells us men want. But, a man is going to remember your actions more than your in-actions. He’s going to remember the night you boldly gave him a stripe-tease (hello Jamie Lee Curtis in True Lies), or blindfolded him, or the night you suggested a new position.
Love Your Body Type
Serena has been quoted saying, “I realized that you really have to learn to accept who you are and love who you are. I’m really happy with my body type, and I’m really proud of it.” Can we get a Hell Yes! please? We love people who love themselves, like Amanda Bingson, an Olympic shotputter who is training to win the gold in 2016, and posed nude for ESPN earlier this year.
Getting to that love – the kind that embraces who you are right now, not who you want to be or who you think you’ll become – can start simply. Choose an outfit today that flaunts your fabulous body type, whatever it may be. Put on the shoes that have you swaggering with confidence and style. It’s going to turn you on every time you get out of your seat and having you ripping of your man’s clothes in the evening.
Stand Up For Your Fellow Woman
In the same Salon article, Mary Elizabeth Williams brings up another key point: “J.K. Rowling went all fangirl over Williams on Twitter this weekend, declaring “What a woman!” Even better, when a troll replied, “Ironic then that main reason for her success is that she is built like a man,” Rowling shot back with a photo of Williams looking flawless in a red dress and heels, and said, “Yeah, my husband looks just like this in a dress. You’re an idiot.”
Let’s not leave each other to fend for ourselves in the self love, body confidence and bedroom arenas. It’s a vulnerable world when you’re naked. Take a moment to remind your friends why you think they are sexy and amazing. Host a genuine compliment party with your closest girls (and don’t wait until a bachelorette party to talk about penises. Just sayin’).
As women, we all live in a cultural gauntlet together. The more we can resist against what we’re told we are supposed to be, and band together to showcase beauty in every form, the better chance we, and the girls of generations following us, have to …
So go ahead – tell a girlfriend she’s looking fine today, and tell her why. Tell that random lady on the street how much you like her dress, or the woman in the subway that she is having an amazing hair day. And give yourself some self love too – put on a favorite outfit and dance in front of the mirror to get your spirits up. Let us know how it goes!