Hi You!
I spent my weekend pondering libido, passion, and monogamy. You see on Friday afternoon I had the opportunity to speak with a group of women who are working with my dear friend and health coach, Stephanie Burg. These women are all taking the courageous step to deepen into true love of their bodies and they had outstanding questions around sex, sexuality, and orgasms.
A specific theme that emerged from our discussion was “how do we increase libido and bring back the passion.” I tend to believe that in many cases, this is the ultimate chicken and egg scenario – which comes first the sex or the passion? The easiest and most simplistic step here is to start having sex again. The sex itself fuels the desire and passion that then begets more and more sex. (Waiting for the passion to start before or without sex is a tricky belief structure, one that tends to perpetuate the sexlessness of relationships.)
This conversation got me thinking about you and that this is the 17th day of Pleasure21!!! So I want to check-in and ask, how is your libido affected? Are you doing this pledge mostly with yourself or in conjunction with a partner? Of course it is my hope that your commitment to daily pleasure is having a positive effect on your sexual vitality but I want to give you as many tools as possible to make that the case.
So this evening I’d like to share one of my all time favorite interviews – a conversation with Dr. Marianne Brandon about reinvigorating passion within monogamous relationships.
Dr. Marianne Brandon is a dear friend of O’actually. She is a brilliant clinical psychologist and sex therapist. She has a special ability to breakdown complex information into easily accessible delectable morsels of advice.
Dr. B is the author of Unlocking the Sexy in Surrender: Using the Neuroscience of Power to Recharge Your Sex Life, Monogamy: The Untold Story. It’s a must-read and I quickly became obsessed…
Unlocking the Sexy in Surrender follows a couple, who are in their seventh year of a monogamous marriage, through the all too common experience of loosing their sexual connection. They have loads of love and support between them but the passion and sex are gone.
In our interview, Dr. B and I dive right into the juicy questions on monogamy, evoluntionary biology, and some simple steps to re-ignite the passion.
Highlights include:
- Who’s Having the Passionate Sex we Think Everyone else is Experiencing?
- The Typical Problems Long Term Couples Face
- What REALLY Makes for Good Sex?
- How to Help Couples Re-establish their Sexual Chemistry?
- What’s been Lost in the Evolution of Men and Women in Society?
- What Women and Men are STARVING for?
- The Importance of Dominance and Submission in the Bedroom, and what that REALLY Means? (It’s not what you think!)
- What might be stopping you from Orgasm – and causing you to fake it?
- Vibrator Do’s and Don’ts
You can watch and/or listen below:
I hope you enjoy it!
Comments, questions, personal experiences with these topics? Don’t be shy… I {hardly ever} bite. Share with us and join the discussion over in our private Facebook group.
Wishing you an orgasmic start to your week!
