To Each Their Own Orgasm

Growing up, we learn we’re all individuals: Meaning, we’re all unique snowflakes who desperately want to look and feel like everyone else.

As we become adults, much of that desire to fit in melts away.

However, when it comes to sex, we still tend to judge ourselves based on what others are doing, feeling, or exploring.  (Or based on the latest how-to sex article.)

So, today, we’re here to shed some light on the “just like her” situation AND…

Tell you a secret! Lean in close:

Your orgasm… how you reach one AND how it feels… is absolutely and completely unique to you!

It’s true.  When a partner says, “Wow, I’ve never seen one like that before!” after you shudder to a stop, he’s not lying. He almost assuredly hasn’t. That’s all you, baby!

Need proof?

After researching stories about what orgasms feel like (this article from Cosmo that’s super fun) we decided we would rather give real examples from O’actually HQ.

So here it is: what an orgasm feels like to Team O’a:

For me, I’m amazed that I continue to find my orgasms so surprising. Surprised that they feel soooo good and surprised that, even in feeling good, they can and do differ from one another so immensely. I generally think I am going to climax really quickly but then, after those first intimate moments, I almost settle into a new baseline of pleasure. Then the orgasm itself can range from feeling like a fast single set of fireworks into the sky set off only from a small area of my body to a more visceral experience that somehow connects me to the earth and is felt from fingertips to toes.   – Kit, Founder of O’actually

It always starts with more targeted sensations, shifting towards build up the anticipation of that moment of orgasm where feeling takes over my entire body. When it does, the involuntary waves and convulsions make me rock with my orgasm the entire way. – Vigdis, Product Lead at O’actually

First of all, my best orgasms happen on top. And, when I’m solo, I’m one of those bizarre people who cums best while lying on my tummy. I like the build up. The tingling that turns into this electric pulse. It grows into an electric current that feels like it’s humming just under the surface of my skin – all up and down my body. As my clit gets more sensitive, the humming energy is mixed with these jolts of pleasure causing my legs to spasm and my toes to clench until finally one (or two or three in succession) takes me over. – Molly, Project Manager at O’actually

The best orgasms leave me feeling like I’m everywhere and nowhere at once – like I’m part of my body but also part of the universe. My eyes are always closed and I feel black and purple fireworks while having zero control of what my body is doing (which is usually shaking and saying “Oh my God,” like a broken record). – Alicia, Writer at O’actually

Why does every orgasm feel different?

There are many reasons – one being that all of our bodies are shaped differently, and we each experience sensations in different ways.

But another reason is that there are different types of orgasms – clitoral, vaginal, g-spot, u-spot, and even skin and mental orgasms are possible.

 

Want to talk about your big O?

We want to hear about it. Tell us about a memorable orgasm and see if anyone else says “Hey, that sounds just like mine!”