Part voyeuristic diary, part owners-manual, sometimes raw, sometimes hawt, always real: How to Make Me Come is a blog in which women anonymously share essays about their trials, tribulations, and triumphs in orgasms. It’s addictive as heck to read (not to mention liberatingly empowering) and should you choose to go there now, we’d dance your way to the link.
What we love about this anonymously curated blog is twofold.
First, we love that it’s giving women a place to speak their truth. Anytime there is an outlet for voices outside the cultural norm to be heard, we salute that effort.
In a small way, we wish this wasn’t anonymous. We hate that anonymity with female sexuality is more the norm than not, particularly if it stems from fear of totally undeserved shaming if a person identified herself. But we do have to face our current reality and take some baby steps. So we appreciated seeing the way the (anonymous) founder likes to keep names off the blog. Anonymity, she she tells The Cut, makes it “easier to see that a woman is a woman is a woman.”
And that’s awesome. Women are unique in every imaginable way. But we’re bonded together in simply and beautifully being women. Which made us think: rather than compare ladies, why not see their similarities?
We had a little fun with this exercise: scroll down, and you’ll see images of women
On the outside, they don’t have a lot in common. So let’s think about within. We can never know everyone’s story. But when we thought about how each woman starts her day the same: by coming into consciousness after sleep; how each has a routine – even if that routine is not routine – and how while there are more differences than we can count, there are also more similarities. What we each live through, what we hear, and what we feel aren’t far apart. Taking a moment to do this really made us feel what the How to Make Me Come blog editor is driving at.
The second reason we love this blog is another response she gave to The Cut. She says: “I almost feel like this blog might mystify the female orgasm even further — it’s showing that there are a million possible answers to the same question.” And oh, heck yes. Though we share quite a bit as women, that isn’t to say there’s not a huge spectrum when it comes to what we like sexually and how we get off. We love that this blog is furthering the idea that not all orgasms are created equal, and that’s okay, because all are worth working for.
PSST!!! Can’t stop reading and learning? For the relentlessly curious (like us!) check School of Squirt.