Let’s be real. You probably don’t have time to read this post. That’s legit. However….
If you’re thinking you don’t have time for yourself and your pleasure this holiday season, that’s another story.
When something is non-negotiable, it just is, well, non-negotiable. It’s like my mentor tells me about meditation. “Kit, it’s just got to become like brushing your teeth. You just do it, twice a day, every day.”
So I’m here to remind you that just like your oral health and your mental health, the health of your relationship to pleasure is also important. But believe me, I get the resistance.
The days I’m back in my hometown for the holidays, I have wonderful but packed days. There are so many people with whom I want to see and hug. In the past years, I’ve re-arranged my relationship to time and now I am usually prompt for dozens of meet-ups over just a few festive days. I map out these visits weeks in advance and I make sure to show up when and where I’ve said I’ll be.
Last year, before going to bed on Dec 23rd, I checked my calendar for the next day to make sure I was on top everything. Smack in the middle of visits, errands, and party prep, was an appointment titled “Bath. Seriously, do it.”
I don’t remember putting it in there, but the “Seriously, do it” part was a reminder that a pleasurable pause isn’t a selfish one. After all, a relaxed, embodied, nourished Kitter is a way more enjoyable holiday companion than a stressed out one.
Even so, I nearly canceled last minute. But just as I was about to say “no way, there’s no time,” I realized something: the first and only appointment I was willing to cancel, was the one I had booked with myself.
I wouldn’t have cancelled on anyone other than myself which felt shitty and was a pattern that I wasn’t okay with perpetuating.
I made a fancy booze free cocktail, I got a piece of chocolate, I lit a candle, and I took a pic of my holiday pedicure. Then I put away technology and just soaked. It’s so simple. It actually didn’t take much time, and yet, total transformation.
The bath itself was lovely, yes. But it turned out it mostly wasn’t about the bath. It was about slowing down and showing up for myself like I show up for others – with presence, gratitude, and joy.
And you, dear one? How will you prioritize your pleasure this holiday season? I invite you book in some time for yourself and to take the calendar appointment just as seriously as you would any other one.
Happiest of holidays and bubble bath love to you,
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